Why You Need A Place Of Refuge In Your Life

Every one needs a place in their life of refuge. Discussing the importance of having a space of refuge.

Do you have a space in your life that is not only specifically yours but that is a place of calm and refuge? 

So many of us share our homes with roommates and spouses, children and pets that even if we once had a dedicated space, it can easily lose its’ purpose.  Today I want to share why you need an area of refuge in your life and encourage you to create this space regardless of the size. With our hectic and busy lives, it is important to have an area of our life where we can breathe and recognize as our own. Although I loved our recent vacation, on our way home, all I could think about was simply being home. After returning home, I became sick and for several days I didn’t feel like leaving the house. My home had become a cocoon and was a refuge to return to after a day at work. As I recuperated, I found refuge in our family room couch and the recliner in my husband’s man cave (he does let me use it). A place of refuge is where you can simply be. In this space you are welcomed and comforted and do not have to worry about putting forth extra energy. This is a space of renewal due to not only what you may be able to do in the space (journal, meditate, listen to music or read) but also by the physical space. [tweetthis twitter_handles=”@how2makealife”]A space of refuge allows you comfort from the world. [/tweetthis]   Without a place of refuge, the world can be a difficult place to function.  Without a place of refuge, there is no time to rebalance.  Without a place of refuge, one forgets the comfort of calm. It is important to note that a place of refuge does not have to be in your home. I recently shared how my local Starbucks helped me grieve and was very much a place of refuge during my early grief.  As I look back over my life, there have been many other places of refuge including my Nanny’s porch when I was little, my walk in closet and the car I owned for my first job and had to drive 45 minutes to work. I have heard others share their places of refuge have included going to a museum, a park or even their bathroom (hello, bubble bath). Others feel their place of refuge is someplace to escape to such as a cabin in the mountains or at the beach. My husband shared that for him having his headphones and music can take him to a place of refuge regardless of where he is. Today I want  you to try this at home and encourage you to consider if you have a place of refuge in your life? What makes is a place of refuge? How often do you find yourself there.

Let me know where your refugee is. 

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14 Comments

  1. Heather @ Simply Save on May 2, 2016 at 7:40 am

    It’s so important! I try to make my home my refuge, but specifically my little reading nook!



    • Sheryl @ How to Make a Life on May 2, 2016 at 6:50 pm

      What’s important is that you have a reading nook! Even if our homes are a refuge – we need a small area.



  2. Bethany Magnie on May 2, 2016 at 1:33 pm

    Blogging with the door of the office closed in my place of refuge, although it doesn’t happen often or always when I want it to!



    • Sheryl @ How to Make a Life on May 2, 2016 at 6:51 pm

      Bethany, you need to try to close that door at least 1 -2 times per week. I’m only guessing that there are some that don’t know what a closed door means! 😉



  3. Christine Everyday on May 2, 2016 at 3:52 pm

    I love going for a hike to get away from the cares of the world!



    • Sheryl @ How to Make a Life on May 2, 2016 at 6:51 pm

      Hikes are wonderful. Being outdoors automatically improves your mood. I bet you have some gorgeous places to hike.



  4. Sierra @ HappyCuriousLife on May 2, 2016 at 5:35 pm

    My place of refuge is my makeup desk. It is my own space to create what ever I want, and every one in my household knows not to mess with me while i’m sitting at my desk.



    • Sheryl @ How to Make a Life on May 2, 2016 at 6:54 pm

      I love that you have a makeup table (wish I had one). I’m also glad that everyone knows not to mess with it.



  5. Bourbon & Lipstick on May 2, 2016 at 5:43 pm

    Our bedroom is generally my place of refuge. It’s the one room I can (usually) keep clean and it’s relaxing and quiet. I agree that it’s so important!



    • Sheryl @ How to Make a Life on May 2, 2016 at 6:56 pm

      I love the photos I’ve seen of your bedroom. I love ours but it has never been a true refuge. I’m thinking I’m going to work on our guest bedroom and have a reading nook etc…. (no boys allowed)



  6. Emily @ Ember Grey. on May 2, 2016 at 5:54 pm

    Love this. I am so grateful to have my home office as my place of refuge. I would also consider the walking path along the river and under the trees a place of refuge for me!



    • Sheryl @ How to Make a Life on May 2, 2016 at 7:22 pm

      I somehow knew that your home office was a place of refuge for you! Being outside in nature can be so comforting also.



  7. Tracy on May 2, 2016 at 10:15 pm

    I could so use a place of refuge right now for sure. It may sound weird but I find my car to be that so many times. Thank you for a great reminder.



  8. Anne @ Love the Here and Now on May 4, 2016 at 7:33 am

    I don’t know if I can peg one place. I just need a space that is calming and quiet and removed from distractions. It’s vital.