How To Protect Your Time | Self Care Saturday

How To Protect Your Time

Over the past month, I’ve shared ideas on what self care is and creating a space for yourself. Last week, I encouraged you to schedule yourself on your calendar.  Today I want to address the importance of how to protect the time that you do set aside for yourself. Recently, a friend posted on Facebook that she had turned down two speaking engagements because those days had already been set aside for self care days. She proclaimed those were her “yellow days” which display that the time is for her. As the engagements were paid opportunities, she was turning down income. However, she knew that without days off, she would be unable to work at the capacity she needed to. She has learned the art of protecting her time.

How often do you allow other events to impede upon time that you may have set aside for yourself?

I am going to assume that there are many times when you look at your schedule and schedule events that interrupt your own time. Just recently I had to protect my own time when another person kept stating she could only meet on a date that I had set aside for myself. (Side note, the other person could meet on a day I suggested but she was preferring another day because it worked better for her.)

It is not uncommon to give up your own time because another person feels their needs are greater. We give up our time in order to be polite, to not be difficult and to let other know we can be counted on.

There were a few moments in the above mentioned conversation when I almost gave in. I could schedule the meeting  with her and hopefully still do the things I wanted to do for myself (massage, manicure), if they could be rescheduled. However, I stood firm in regards to my own needs. Practicing self care is also about protecting the time you have set aside for yourself. Even if you do not have events scheduled, simply knowing you have an afternoon all to yourself is therapeutic. You will always find others who want to steal your time. Others will always believe that their meeting is more important, that their event is more significant and that their time means more.

It is up to you to learn the art of protecting your time.

Not protecting your time can lead to a vicious cycle.
  • Making appointments during the time you planned to grocery shop can lead to grabbing meals at the drive through.
  • Working during your off days and not having that planned coffee or lunch with a friend can lead to feeling disconnected from your support circle.
  • Choosing to work on the laundry or clean the house rather than spend 30 minutes working out can lead to higher levels of stress, tight muscles and an overall decrease in health.
I admire my friend for publicly sharing she is valuing her time. In the past, she would accept any offer that came to her. She wanted to be available but has also learned that others can wait. There will be other speaking engagements. Taking time to relax is likely enabling her to be stronger for these future engagements.

Today I am challenging you to protect your time. You are important and the hours or minutes set aside for you are just as important.

How do you protect your time? 

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8 Comments

  1. Sarah @ Sometimesphotojenik on February 21, 2015 at 11:03 am

    man, this is SO true! I was just thinking this morning how it would be nice to earn the bonus at work that they’re offering because we’ve been short nurses lately. But then I think about how emotionally taxing it would be, and that that’s not really worth the extra money. I’m so impressed with your friend for reserving her days for herself- it’s inspiring. I really try to remind myself that my well-being is more important than any amount of money ever will be; focusing on that helps me guard my time a lot better.

    • Sheryl @ How to Make a Life on February 21, 2015 at 11:13 am

      Thanks Sarah, it’s taken my friend a long time to get to this point and I’m so proud of her. Extra money is always hard to turn down but we have to think about if it is worth the cost on our physical bodies.

      • Sarah @ Sometimesphotojenik on February 21, 2015 at 11:18 am

        Yes, amen! I think sometimes you don’t realize that if you’re younger because you kind of think that your body is resilient and it won’t have lasting effects.

        • Sheryl @ How to Make a Life on February 21, 2015 at 6:18 pm

          Yes, when you are young – you have a feeling that our bodies will just keep bouncing back. Sadly, they often don’t.

  2. Miss Sara on February 21, 2015 at 2:51 pm

    I’ve recently had to REPEATEDLY tell my job “NO, I cannot come in on my off days” because I NEEDED that time for ME. I also have other priorities that I need to focus on and that place will suck the life out of me if I allow it to. Self-care is imperative and I have learned that if I’m not taking care of me, I am no good to/for another.

    • Sheryl @ How to Make a Life on February 21, 2015 at 6:20 pm

      I’m so proud of you for saying NO!!! Yes, our jobs are important but they are not so important that they require us to destroy our emotional and physical health.

  3. Danie Williams-Rivera on February 24, 2015 at 10:50 pm

    This is so true, I’ve been learning all about saying no! I’m typically a ‘too quick to say yes” kind of person. Thank you for this post! 🙂

  4. Emmymom on February 24, 2015 at 11:38 pm

    You are so right! You really do need to set time aside and then keep it. It is so easy to lose yourself in everything that is going on and in the end that doesn’t help anyone. Thanks so much for linking up with the #bestoftheblogosphere

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