In my coaching practice it is not uncommon for new clients to have a hard time sharing with me who they are and what they want. An exercise I typically begin with is the creation of a random lists of likes. This helps to establish patterns that are often surprising. Although I do not feel there is a universal lists that everyone needs to follow, I have found there are items which are beneficial for each of us to know and help make our lives better. Today, I’m sharing a starter list of things every woman  should know and have in their life.

A Space of Your Own

Regardless of how tiny or large, every woman needs a space in her life that is her own.  When married with a family it can be difficult to create a space that is strictly your own. Having your own space provides comfort. It can be a whole room, a closet or simply a chair. I currently have a chair in my family room that has been mine in each house regardless of where it was placed.

A Good Physician/Dentist/Therapist 

This category could include every health care professional possible. Many women wait until they need a physician to find one but in today’s healthcare world, it is important to take time to research who would be best for you. Not all physicians or providers are created equal. Know what your needs are and don’t be afraid to investigate. After my favorite physician moved out of state, I explored a few of her suggestions. It took over a year to find the best fit for my autoimmune disease but feel confident in my health care. If you are uncertain, ask friends for recommendations and don’t hesitate to leave a physican if you are not receiving good care.

A Hairstylist and Hair Style

Every woman needs to have a hairstylist that they trust. That individual who knows you well enough to know not to cut your hair when you go in on an “off day” and are asking for 6 inches cut or the person who pushes you to try a new color that is fantastic. Michelle and I began our love affair almost 13 years ago. She’s taken me blonde, red and decided my natural dark hair is not good for my complexion. “That’s why God made hair stylists!” We’ve gone shoulder length once only to realize that WILL not happen again. (She would be giddy to take me shorter). I’ve spent hundreds of hours in her chair and loved every minute. She went on early maternity leave and I went over 16 weeks without a hair cut (I wore ponytails ALOT). She’s a keeper and we plan on being old ladies in the nursing home together.

A Uniform:

Establishing a wardrobe with basic pieces not only makes one feel good but also makes getting ready for the day much easier. Items to consider having in your closet:
  • Good tailored pants
  • A bra that fits
  • A little black (or Navy) dress (or any dress that you love)
  • A good purse
  • Shoes that make you feel like superwoman
  • A piece of sentimental or significant jewlery
Ten Things Every Woman Should Have In Their Life

An Exercise Routine 

An exercise routine can be regular classes at the gym or a run through the park. Knowing what you energizes you and helps you destress  is significant self care. I enjoy a good PiYo class but also benefit from a good walk or run.

A Hobby or Interest One Can Get Lost In

What do you do for fun? Do you make time for it? Everyone needs a hobby that inspires, relaxes and renews them. This beautiful little piece of the internet has become my hobby. I also love to read, listen to music, garden, cook and the occasional Netflix binge.

A Best Friend and Tribe

Every woman needs to have friends they can call or who will call them in times of need. Our friends remind us we are not alone in this world. Although there are people who I am closer to and share more with, I do not feel there is just one best friend. Singling one out would not be fair to anyone. God has blessed me with a variety of friends who have supported and lifted me up. They know who they are!

A Cause You Are Passionate About

Be educated and able to share with others your passion. Volunteer, donate money and advocate. Individually, each of us make a difference. Although I do not work full time in the field of hospice and palliative care anymore, it remains a passion that I reguarly discuss with others.

A Go To Drink

Often ordering a drink or cocktail can be overwhelming at a new restaurant. It’s helpful to establish a go to drink that one knows will be good and can be found most anywhere. For myself, I always know a glass of Pinot Noir will be what I need. However, I’ve also learned to appreciate a good Bourbon Cocktail (I do live in Kentucky) such as an Old Fashioned.

A Theme Song

Having a theme song can promote confidence, strength and immediately improve a mood. I have my theme song of Sia’s Titanium rotated throughout my workout playlist along with a few versions of Stronger by Britney Spears. Sometimes questions such as the ones above can seem trivial. However, if we don’t know and understand the simple things about ourselves, how can we know the complex and complicated. Take some time to begin your own list.

What are your ten things? I would love to hear them and if you write a post, please let me know!

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  1. Julie Scott Thorne on April 24, 2017 at 8:21 am

    I love your list!!! I feel like my hobbies, theme songs, and causes certainly haves changed a lot over the years.

    • Sheryl @ How to Make a Life on April 24, 2017 at 7:40 pm

      I think they do change over the years as we change but it’s always important to make sure we are aware of what they are currently Thanks for stopping by.

  2. Rachel G on April 24, 2017 at 8:59 am

    Aww, loved this list! Also warmed my heart to see hairstylist on it, because I come from that trade. Just this evening I was doing my mom’s lowlights an hour ago. Hair matters! And having someone you can trust with your hair makes a big difference!

    • Sheryl @ How to Make a Life on April 24, 2017 at 7:39 pm

      Hairstylist truly make the world go around. There’s a lot of therapy that goes on in those salon chairs – on many levels. As I said, my hair stylist and I know each other so well that she would never let me come in and randomly do something. Our agreement is she sends me home and if I want it in 48 hours, she will do it. Nothing like that has ever happened!

  3. Beth Kondrick on April 24, 2017 at 10:05 am

    I seriously love this list! And I’m happy to say I have a number of these things – a tribe, a good physician, a hairstylist. But I need to make a space of my own at home. I don’t have that and I think I need one. I live with two boys, so I think I need a “mom cave” ha!

    • Sheryl @ How to Make a Life on April 24, 2017 at 7:37 pm

      Oh Beth, you certainly need a “mom cave”, even if it’s a small closet, you need a place of your own. I’m going to be watching to see if you create one.

  4. Kim Munoz on April 24, 2017 at 11:34 am

    LOVE this whole list. And I have most of it covered. I was a jack and coke kinda girl back in the day. Do jeans and a tank top count as a uniform? Ok I need a little work it that department LOL Pinning this!

    • Sheryl @ How to Make a Life on April 24, 2017 at 7:32 pm

      Well yes, Jeans and a tank top count as a uniform. Last year I finally had to get rid of my favorite jeans (because I wore them everywhere) – and only after they developed a hole in a place that couldn’t be ignored! Thanks for pinning! I could write even more here.

  5. Becky @ bybmg on April 24, 2017 at 12:01 pm

    Love this list! I’m still workin on a go-to drink, but I think I have a lot of the rest!

    • Sheryl @ How to Make a Life on April 24, 2017 at 7:36 pm

      Good for you! I think our go to drinks change over the years and throughout the year and season to – so you could have a few.

  6. Jessica Bradshaw on April 24, 2017 at 12:26 pm

    I agree with all of these and I can say I have all of them! Yay! This is a great list. Thank you for sharing. Great theme song, too. 😉

  7. Katie Arnold on April 24, 2017 at 1:53 pm

    These are such great points! I think I have most of them, though I’m not sure about my theme song…

    • Sheryl @ How to Make a Life on April 24, 2017 at 7:35 pm

      I think that’s the one that gets a lot of people. I know you work out a lot so think about the songs that really move you. I think of it as what I want playing when I’m introduced.

  8. Divya Budhraja on April 24, 2017 at 2:37 pm

    Oh GOSH yes. I’m over here nodding at each one of these. Especially the uniform bit. My husband ACTUALLY calls it my uniform. And he knows it goes on the minute I get home because PJs are where it’s AT.

  9. Lindsay @ The Flynnigans on April 24, 2017 at 6:19 pm

    Yes yes yes! Spot on, wise one. I agree with every one of these. You’ve got me thinking of a theme song, though, and I’m stumped. I’ll have to sit on that for a bit. What a great post idea, too. 🙂

    • Lindsay @ The Flynnigans on April 24, 2017 at 6:21 pm

      My drink is an ameretto sour. And if I’m desperate, a whiskey sour will do. But lately it’s been sangria and Tito’s… not together.

      • Sheryl @ How to Make a Life on April 24, 2017 at 7:34 pm

        Oh yes to sangria!!! And tito’s. I really need to do a longer post about the importance of having a theme song! I think we each need one. Kind of think of it as what you would want playing if you were coming out on stage! (and then let me know).

  10. Lindsay Carreiro on April 24, 2017 at 6:19 pm

    Omg I love this idea and might steal it!! I totes agree with having a drink, purse, and LBD!

    • Sheryl @ How to Make a Life on April 24, 2017 at 7:31 pm

      That’s the best form of flattery to past this post idea on!! I will be looking for your post.

  11. Lisa Thomson on April 24, 2017 at 7:33 pm

    This is great advice, Sheryl. Thanks for the reminder. Some of these will evolve and change over time. For example, I used to run often now I alternate running with cycle fit and lots of yoga. I’ve maintained my passion for art (painting, drawing) for many years and it will be a keeper. A good therapist can take time to find the right one. A theme song is a great idea!

    • Sheryl @ How to Make a Life on April 24, 2017 at 7:42 pm

      Thanks Lisa. I so agree that everything evolves over time and it’s interesting to see what things use to be as we change. I’m thinking I will write more about a theme song as it is a very popular subject. Thanks for stopping by.

  12. shootingstarsmag on April 24, 2017 at 8:08 pm

    Great idea! I do think it’s good to have your own space, whatever that may be.


  13. Akaleistar on April 24, 2017 at 10:56 pm

    Love this list! A big yes to all of them 🙂

  14. Trish @ The Trish List on April 25, 2017 at 11:41 am

    This is a great list! I think each item are absolute musts in every girls lives!

  15. San on April 25, 2017 at 12:12 pm

    That’s a great list and I agree that these are must-haves for every woman! Especially the tribe! 🙂

  16. Crystal @ Dreams, etc. on April 25, 2017 at 11:58 pm

    I love this! I need to take some time to think about what my ten things would be. 🙂 And I’m with you on the Pinot Noir and the Old Fashioned!

    • Sheryl @ How to Make a Life on April 29, 2017 at 8:55 am

      I am loving how this list is making everyone think of their own. Would love to know what yours are. Amen to Pinot Noir!

  17. Charlotte on April 26, 2017 at 12:29 pm

    I love this idea so much (and was glad to see Lindsay borrow it today)–I might have to take a stab at this, too 🙂

    Couldn’t agree more re: well-fitting bra. My goodness… I struggle with this one! And yes, to a good handbag. I have several. Much to the chagrin of my bf 🙂 And a space of my own is quite important too… anyway, wonderful list, Sheryl! <3

    • Sheryl @ How to Make a Life on April 29, 2017 at 8:54 am

      I continue to search for a good bra – just when I think I have one that is great, it isn’t! As for the handbags – I have way too many!! 🙂

  18. Meg on May 1, 2017 at 7:26 am

    I love these ideas … and some of them I hadn’t even thought of. Definitely awesome to have a cause you’re passionate about!

  19. Uche @ CODA Hair on May 1, 2017 at 11:12 am

    Such a good reminder that self-care is important. I have few covered on the list and much more to go. I’ll definitely start working on it!

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