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Stand Up For Yourself | Self Care Saturday


When I saw the above prompt for this week’s That’s What She Said #TSWW link up, I automatically began to consider how difficult it is for many people to stand up for their own rights and to use their own voice. Self Care begins with acknowledging that your opinion matters, your thoughts and feelings matter and most importantly that you have a voice. Are you able to stand up for yourself?  It does take an amount of bravery to stand up to those who disagree with us. All too often it is easier to go along with the majority voice.

“Friends make the worse enemies.” ~ Frank Underwood House of Cards

This prompt  lead me to the House of Cards quote. As a result, I believe that standing up to friends can often take more bravery. Our friends know our weaknesses as well as our strengths. It makes for an interesting playing field. The dance of friendship is not always easy. We open ourselves us and trust that we are sharing with someone safe. Sadly, at times this can backfire on us.  We can feel bullied into doing things because our friend wants us to and we can’t say no. We can simply agree because it’s easier to not speak up. As we continue along this path it becomes harder to voice an opinion or when we do, the opinion and voice is ignored. We never enter into a friendship believing it will be adversarial. We put up with more from our friends because of the friendship. We often allow friends to say and treat us in ways that we would not tolerate from a stranger. Everyone likely has a bossy friend, perhaps a frenemy or even a mean girl in their life.    [tweetthis twitter_handles=”@how2makealife”]Often we do not stand up to our friends for fear of losing them.[/tweetthis]   If that is the case, is it a true friendship?  Who are the people in your life that you need to stand up to? Your opinion (whether it be where to meet for lunch or the recent school board decision) is important. Your voice is as important as any other voice in the relationship. Take time this weekend to consider if  there is someone you need to stand up to.   Self care is about making the decision that you are doing what you truly want to do in life rather than making sure everyone else is happy. Everyone else includes our friends. 

Have you been brave enough to stand up to your friends?

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  1. Helen Sunflower on April 19, 2015 at 1:12 pm

    I love this post, great advice. We always think about shrugging off the negative vibes and opinions from peers or competitors, but we forget that sometimes we have to say no to our friends! I was just thinking about this the other day. Thanks for writing and sharing this, it was meaningful for me!

    • Sheryl @ How to Make a Life on April 19, 2015 at 7:36 pm

      Helen, I’m so glad this was meaningful for you. We do tend to forget that the way in which our friends do treat us and make us feel. Thanks for commenting and stopping by.

  2. Sam on April 19, 2015 at 3:37 pm

    This is a fantastic post – you’re right, it’s much harder to stand up to our friends because we fear their response and immaculately we love them. However, we should not let them walk over us xx

    Sam | Samantha Betteridge

    • Sheryl @ How to Make a Life on April 19, 2015 at 7:37 pm

      Thank you Sam! You are so right, we love our friends but sometimes our friends may not have our greatest needs in mind and we need to be aware of that. So glad you stopped by.

  3. Mrs.AOK on April 20, 2015 at 11:34 am

    Another wonderful post with absolutely “needed” advice, Sheryl.
    It IS harder to stand up to friends in fear of losing them. There are relationships we *all* hold on to, because we are stuck in the past when the friendship was bright, thriving, and nurturing. Sometimes, those friendships cease to blossom or become rancorous.
    Thank you for sharing this, I have a ton of thoughts swirling in my head right now.

  4. Andrea on April 20, 2015 at 3:28 pm

    Very true! I find it incredibly difficult to stand up to friends. Naturally, I am not one to rock the boat often anyway so that doesn’t make it any easier. There have been times when I knew it had to be done though. And, in most cases, I was respected for voicing my thoughts instead of alienated. Thanks for sharing your thoughts here!

  5. Karen Koblan on April 22, 2015 at 11:27 am

    I love your take on this quote. My feeling is that if you have to stand up to your friend then are they really your friend anyway? I guess because I’m at an age where I just don’t care if I lose a friend over this. Respect is a two way street.

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