That’s What She Said #TSWW link up, I automatically began to consider how difficult it is for many people to stand up for their own rights and to use their own voice. Self Care begins with acknowledging that your opinion matters, your thoughts and feelings matter and most importantly that you have a voice. Are you able to stand up for yourself? It does take an amount of bravery to stand up to those who disagree with us. All too often it is easier to go along with the majority voice.
“Friends make the worse enemies.” ~ Frank Underwood House of CardsThis prompt lead me to the House of Cards quote. As a result, I believe that standing up to friends can often take more bravery. Our friends know our weaknesses as well as our strengths. It makes for an interesting playing field. The dance of friendship is not always easy. We open ourselves us and trust that we are sharing with someone safe. Sadly, at times this can backfire on us. We can feel bullied into doing things because our friend wants us to and we can’t say no. We can simply agree because it’s easier to not speak up. As we continue along this path it becomes harder to voice an opinion or when we do, the opinion and voice is ignored. We never enter into a friendship believing it will be adversarial. We put up with more from our friends because of the friendship. We often allow friends to say and treat us in ways that we would not tolerate from a stranger. Everyone likely has a bossy friend, perhaps a frenemy or even a mean girl in their life. [tweetthis twitter_handles=”@how2makealife”]Often we do not stand up to our friends for fear of losing them.[/tweetthis] If that is the case, is it a true friendship? Who are the people in your life that you need to stand up to? Your opinion (whether it be where to meet for lunch or the recent school board decision) is important. Your voice is as important as any other voice in the relationship. Take time this weekend to consider if there is someone you need to stand up to. Self care is about making the decision that you are doing what you truly want to do in life rather than making sure everyone else is happy. Everyone else includes our friends.
Have you been brave enough to stand up to your friends?
Self Care Saturday is a weekly series offering tips and suggestions for self care in your daily life.]]>