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When I began this blog, I discussed how I used the jig saw puzzle analogy as a way to describe one’s life. After a death, it often feels like the pieces do not fit anymore as the person who died is no longer there. When I sit down and think about the changes that my life has taken in less than 5 months, it could easily be overwhelming.
Within a short amount of time, the routine of my daily life has changed significantly. For the past two Sundays, my husband and I have looked at each other and actually asked “What would you like to do?” We haven’t been able to have time which wasn’t scheduled to do something. Of course, I’m still struggling with allowing myself to have down time because the reality is there is always something I could be doing regarding my Mom’s estate. However, we are working on it and have had two days where we’ve not been on a schedule. It is a new routine in our lives and we are adjusting to a new rhythm.
Tonight I’m starting a new section where I share some of the new pieces of my puzzle. Some of the pieces may only be temporary but others may become permanent fixtures. As one grieves, it takes time to decide what feels right and over time there is often a need to readjust.
I’m thinking that this new piece may be something I keep around for awhile. This morning, my friend Brandy and I finally went to a Pure Barre class. It is a class utilizing the ballet barre to perform isometric movements. It is a WORK OUT – but I think I’m in love. You receive a total body workout and I’m so glad we tried. We are now planning on this becoming our Sunday morning routine.
One of my focuses is to begin to care for myself physically. In the past I LOVED the gym and attended classes regularly but then I moved into my grief counselor position and had late hours, couldn’t attend my regular classes and then my favorite instructors left….. (there were a lot of excuses). I know I’m not alone in regards to not making the time. Although I still continued to work out, it wasn’t on the same level and then it became easier and easier to not work out. An example is I’ve wanted to try Pure Barre for years; but their classes were always at odd times for my work schedule, I didn’t want to get out of the house on the weekend, I couldn’t find anyone to go with me for the first time (again, there was always an excuse).
I’m thankful I have this time to refocus on my physical health. Last week was the introduction of my new diet and I’m thankful I have the time to look into new recipes and take the time to try new things. It’s also a blessing to be able to spend time focusing upon my physical health and hopefully making these new routines like my morning walks (may start running again) and Sunday Pure Barre classes a regular part of my puzzle. For the record, I don’t intentionally plan on trying to incorporate a new piece each week but will try things as they occur.
I encourage you to look at your own puzzle (life). Are you happy with the pieces? Are there areas of your life that are getting squeezed out due to work and life stresses? Do you miss something which you used to do but for some reason can no longer do?
If you find you are not happy, I challenge you to make at least one small change in the next week.
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