Lessons From Mom

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Today is my Mom’s birthday. 
 
When you lose your Mom at a young age, you always feel that there are things you forgot to learn or ask. Of course, over the years there were times when I thought I knew more than my Mom or that she didn’t know what she was talking about. Needless to say, before she died I had begun to realize that she did have a lot of knowledge and had learned a few things along the way. 

In honor of her birthday, I wanted to share a few things I feel I  was fortunate enough to learn from her over the years.

 1. Make Your Bed Daily 

Mom stressed that it made you feel better to have a straight room rather than return home to an unmade bed. If you make your bed each morning then you have automatically accomplished a task for the day. You can have the most difficult day in the world where you feel you have succeeded at nothing but returning home to a made bed proves that you have succeeded. To this day, the last thing I do before leaving the bedroom in the morning is make my bed.

2. Wash Your Laundry Carefully 

My husband will sigh when he reads this comment because I continue this practice. My Mom was very particular with her laundry. Items were sorted carefully by color or fabric and sometimes washed alone on delicate; towels were to be washed with towels and sheets with sheets. Many things are never put in the dryer. Mom’s thoughts were if you were going to spend money on clothing, then you should attempt to make them last as long as possible. Additionally, she was a precise folder (an art that I have only on occasion). She would love our new front load washer and dryer.

3. How to Make the Best Sweet Tea

I’m from the south and I believe that most of us have been given a  sweet tea recipe. Mom LOVED sweet tea. She had it in her refrigerator year round and I know there were times when she probably made two or more pitchers of tea a day. Her secret was to steep the tea bags (Luzianne family size bags) in boiling water for over 15 minutes. The longer the bags were steeping, the better the tea. She used entirely too much sugar but it is sweet tea after all! As James and I watch our sugar intake, I rarely make sweet tea at home but I know good sweet tea when I taste it.

4. Don’t Ask Someone To Do Something For You That You Can Do Yourself

After my Dad’s death, Mom was faced with having to ask for help/hire help or doing things for herself. Most often she chose to do things herself. She mowed an acre yard, trimmed trees, dug holes, fixed a toilet, painted walls and on occasion rewired a thing or two. Of course, there were times she knew her limits (or learned them) and asked for help. As a result, I am not one to think there are things I can’t do.  I would rather attempt something myself than ask James as that is how I was raised. Mom taught me that I have the ability to do non-traditional skills and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

5. Faith is More Than Attending Church / Pray About It 

This is one of the things I admire most about my Mom. She was not an every Sunday church member but her faith was present daily. Regardless of how much someone hurt her or the struggle she was going through, she continued to pray. “Pray for them.” and “Give it to God.” are statements she would often say to me. At times when she had been hurt by others and all I could be was mad, she relied upon her belief that in time God would touch the lives of those who needed to be touched. Faith is more than regularly sitting in a pew and needs to be shown in your daily activities and how you live. I’m grateful for this personal lesson from Mom.

Sadly, I never asked for her meatloaf recipe or learned to make her deviled eggs. However, each day I am surrounded by many lessons I learned from Mom over the years.  For that I am grateful and blessed.  Happy Birthday Mom!
Have you thought about the lessons you have learned from your Mom?
 Take some time today to think about it and if you are lucky enough to have your Mom still with you – thank her.
 
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10 Comments

  1. Daisy @ Simplicity Relished on November 7, 2014 at 6:26 pm

    This is a beautiful tribute! I love quoting my mom too. I wonder if becoming a mother means having an extra dose of wisdom… 🙂 Have a great weekend, Sheryl!

    <3 Daisy



  2. Holly on November 10, 2014 at 3:53 am

    Lovely tribute. I hope you were able to celebrate her in some way.



  3. Ellen WInkler on November 11, 2014 at 9:35 pm

    WWBD or WWPD is what we have so often said in the past. We will always hear those voices in our heads!



  4. Sometimesphotojenik on November 18, 2014 at 1:34 am

    What a great post- I love all the lessons you wrote about especially the
    last two. Thanks for the reminder to think about lessons my mom has
    taught me and thank her. (I think I accidentally posted this comment in the wrong place so sorry if you see it twice!)



    • Sheryl @ How to Make a Life on November 18, 2014 at 1:42 am

      Sarah, I can’t thank you enough for all of the wonderful comments! I did see the other comment first and was a little concerned something was wrong. There are so many other lessons I didn’t even post here.



  5. Melissa The Llama on November 23, 2014 at 9:08 am

    LOVE this. I’m the same way with laundry and making the beds. 🙂



    • howtomakealife@gmail.com on November 23, 2014 at 8:37 pm

      I do drive my husband a little crazy but he’s adjusted to it after all of these years!



  6. Rachel G on May 5, 2016 at 8:19 am

    My mom has also passed down a lot of laundry/housekeeping lessons. And my husband also doesn’t quite ‘get’ the importance of separating clothes and washing on different cycles. 🙂 Very sweet post, moms are really good for handing down these kinds of life lessons!



  7. Christine on May 5, 2016 at 10:15 am

    My mom passed away three years ago this month. I miss her so much. But what she taught me was to speak my mind, be kind, don’t lie and love everyone unconditionally. My mom had such a big heart. She was a strong lady.



  8. Jessica Hughes on May 5, 2016 at 1:39 pm

    Such great lessons~especially about making your bed daily!