If I had money for every client I have worked with who has said “I don’t like change.” I would be extremely wealthy. As humans, we crave ritual and consistency. There is comfort in the routine. A change in the routine brings about discomfort. A change takes away normalcy.
Today, my husband is moving to a new branch into a new position. The work will not be completely new as he has been in the banking industry for well over 10 years. He has been at his current bank for almost a year. This is a great move in many ways. He will be 10 minutes from home and with a new challenging position. Nonetheless, things will be different. There is some unknown. The ritual of what was norm is no longer. He acknowledged there is some apprehension.
Just as a small rock on a calm pond disrupts the complete body of water, a small change in life can disrupt what was once complete balance. We often focus so much on the discomfort of change that we do not acknowledge the necessity and power of these times of transition.
[tweetthis]Transitions and changes in life are a necessity.[/tweetthis]
Although we may not acknowledge it, with the passing of each day we are changing. We are evolving.
Personally, I understand the uncertainty when life is turned upside down. Professionally, I have focused my career upon helping others through changes and transitions in life. Although I am not one to say “I LOVE change”, I have learned to appreciate it. At times I may have even embraced it.
Perhaps you are going through your own transitions and changes in life. It could be positive transitions of the start of a new job, moving to a new home or birth of a new baby. Sadly, it could be a stressful transitions of the loss of a job or marriage, death of a loved one or a change in your health.
Learning to live during the transition times can be difficult. Suddenly what used to work, no longer applies. There is a struggle in finding some type of calm and balance. Life is in flux. This is when it is important to acknowledge what you do have. Take inventory of what is in your life and what you may need to find some type of equilibrium.
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What we are guaranteed, regardless of what event we are encountering – be it positive, stressful or negative – is the moment will not last forever. There will be an end to the event and stressor. The passing of time equates a transition to another moment and to a new stage in our life. We may find ourselves in a place we never imagined but sometimes the journey takes us to where we need to be. As a result, the view may be better than we could have expected.
If only we could each realize that each day is a transition. We move closer to goals of graduation, new jobs and life ambitions.
We would not be happy if there were no changes in life.
Today I ask you to examine where you are at in your life. Are you facing transitions and changes that you created or have transitions and changes been forced upon you by powers outside of your control?
Attempt to acknowledge the opportunity that is before you. A transition is a time when you do not and often can not do what you used to do. Many times this is an excellent opportunity to reevaluate how things truly are.Take this time to realize the past may not have been as wonderful as you thought. (We often romanticize how great things were when the reality is they were not.)
Yes, I know change can be scary. However, trust that you have the ability to work through the discomfort and find a new balance and norm.
Today I am grateful and thankful that life is full of transitions and change and am linking up with
Emily for Grateful Heart Monday. I am thankful for the continuous ability to grow and the opportunities which these moments provide me. I am thankful that each of us is promised tomorrow will be different than today.
Do you embrace or run from the transitions and change in life?
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I totally needed this post today as I prepare to start my new job in an hour! So excited but nervous, too!
That apprehension is to be understood. I’m going to be thinking of you! I’m glad I was able to post this today! Good Luck and can’t wait to hear how it goes! XOXO
My husband changed jobs 3 months before our wedding last year. That was an intense time because it was a huge change for him, but also because we had our wedding to plan and get ready for. He is now almost to the point that he wants to change companies, so I am gearing up for more change.
I think change is necessary, but it’s unpredictable and scary at times. I don’t hate change, but I am cautious to it…if that makes any sense at all.
It makes perfect sense. We do need to be cautious about change. It’s important to always take review of what we have in our life that hasn’t changed and that can bring a little bit of normalcy. It sounds like your husband went through many changes at once and that doubles the stress. As he changes companies, just remember what hasn’t changed and that there is the potential for new things.
Change really is scary. I’ve found that some of my moodiest moments have been due to realizing that something has changed and I don’t feel ready. I love this post Sheryl– keep that wisdom coming!
Oh Daisy, you are so right. Change is scary – and it knocks everything out of balance. We must remember what we have is the same and that gives us the ability to work through the change. You are also right that sometimes just a small change can make everything crazy and make us cranky.
I was nodding my head through this entire post! I recently wrote a post (for Best Kept Self) about this very thing and how to learn how to ‘go with the flow’ (something I’m still learning how to do, sometimes daily) 🙂 Thank you for the encouragement throughout!
Thank You Emily. Going with the flow means we are giving up some control and that’s not always easy to live with. I’m still learning how to do it myself. We are all works in progress and I keep reminding myself it’s “progress, not perfection.”